Sunday, January 31, 2010


I've heard that other than death and taxes... change is the only other thing you can count on in life. Well, I guess I'm about due for some of that.

In the summer of 2004, I went with my stepmother to pick up my little brother that my parents were adopting from Guatemala. He was around 18 months old at the time, and I remember that trip so vividly. He was a cute little guy that was happy as long as you didn't move him or change what was happening.

You want to play with toys on the bed, fine... he was perfectly happy. You want to walk around with him in his stroller, fine... perfectly happy. Although, if you needed to change the current pattern of activity or his clothes... he freaked out and a typical toddler temper tantrum would ensue.

I can sort of relate at the moment. There is something particularly hard for me right now with Sundays and Mondays... I can't even put my finger on it. I just know that those two days of the week are the hardest for me emotionally - I mean it's not normal for me to get weepy because I have to get out of bed... much less go to church... I love my church! Believe me - if I could figure out how to write it out and process it... I'd be doing that.

There is just so much swirling in my head lately, and I feel like junk. Literally! The nausea, headaches, and just general sickness are back in full force.

I was thinking through some things on my way to a church event this afternoon. I was thinking of all the change that has come over the last few months, and how people process through those things... the only way I can really compare it would be to say that it is much like the process of grieving.

You see, I've been taking every bit of the uncertainty and anger over our infertility and the end of that process out on my body. I go through these stages every now and then... a stage where I get so fed up with all the things that are wrong with me - that I sort of go into denial about it all.

I stopped the fertility shots, drugs, and such in September - but I also stopped taking my diabetes medicine, my thyroid medicine, and doing anything that might be considered healthy. I sunk right back into my "happy place" and medicated with food - specifically sugar. I know this is all wrong, but in the moment - you are helpless to stop it when you are hanging on by a thread.

When you wake up and start realizing what is happening - you're almost helpless to fix it. In a way this makes me feel like a failure on two issues (fertility and weight loss), and add to that a work situation that is emotionally stressful to the point of almost making you feel like you are a worthless employee... and you have a perfect storm driving my emotional state right now.

Please hear me say that I am 100% excited about adoption... and believe whole-heartedly that this is our God given path at the moment, but that doesn't mean that it doesn't sometimes cross my mind that there are things that I will miss out on if I never physically bear my own child. I am so excited about the opportunities that are just around the corner for us through our adoption... it's just hard to not have much to push forward to at this point.

So, that is pretty much where I am... I know that there is a lot that I need to do for myself... but at the same time emotionally - I think I need something to help level me out a little bit possibly. I don't know - I'll talk to my doctor tomorrow about what he thinks... but maybe just for a month or so just to level me out in order to have the strength/courage to tackle all the things that I need to tackle in order to get back on track.

  • Start a new diet plan... I'm highly considering the Gylcemic Impact Diet through
  • Start working out again in some form
  • Start back on my thyroid medications
  • Start back on my vitamins and supplements
  • Continue taking my diabetes medicine
  • Figure out what it is that I want to do with my life... in the future
  • Get back to my normal life...


  1. It is amazing how the stress level in one part of your life can affect all of the other parts. I hope things let up soon. My reproductive endocrinologist highly recommends the glycemic index diet and says that it will be "the BEST" way for me to lose weight but when I bought the book it was so confusing I could never figure it out! Maybe the one from ediets would be easier to understand...

  2. I have no opinion about diets because I've never done one!

    But I am glad you see that you need to take better care of yourself.

    One day and one step at a time.

  3. Girl, I hear ya! It's amazing how life's ups and downs can impact our ability/motivation to take care of ourselves. You know what to do and how to do it. Pedal to the metal, baby! I'm on board to get back on track with you!

  4. Hi Kim! I just want to let you know that you are not alone. 3 years ago I was put on a very low dosage of Celexa, an antidepressant. I had just gotten married, left my job that I had been at for years to go to school full time, moved from my home town, and had a father battling cancer. Although most of those changes were good changes...they were HUGE, and my body just shut down. I was very much like a zombie. I would go to work, and come home, and stare at the computer or the tv. (not normal for a newlywed). Anyway, my husband finally convinced me to go to the dr., and he put me on the meds. I could tell a difference ina week. I'm on such a low dosage, that I still take it now, just in case and I'm doing very well. Anyway, keep your head up...and if you need a little help...TAKE It. You've been through a lot, and you will overcome this as well.

    Your friend,


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