I started a new Bible Study with some of the ladies from my MOPS group yesterday. We meet on the off weeks when the full group isn't meeting... anyway it's a study on marriage. We read some great scripture and I learned a lot about God's design for marriage. Lots of great stuff, truly.
One thing in particular that we talked about was taking the next few months and studying our husbands. Really taking the time to watch and learn... and make a list of the very specific things that we love about them. Things that are public and maybe things that are private... whatever it is for you.
I sat down today and thought about it while the boys were at school, and made an initial list... lots of little things about John that make me love him more every day. I tacked that list up on the bathroom mirror, and didn't say anything.
Tonight when he came home, after his initial tackling from the boys -- he went into the bedroom to change his clothes, and he saw it. He came right out and gave me a kiss and said he loved me too - it was a really sweet moment.
The idea is that I will add to it as things come to me, and keep it up -- John can read it while he's getting ready in the morning and know all of the reasons why I love him. I can't think of a better way for him to get psyched up for going out in the world everyday.
I heard on the radio today that a study was done recently that showed a positive correlation to men kissing their wives in the morning before leaving the house -- lead to higher salaries and fewer car accidents! Amazing!
If just showing our husbands how much they mean to us can keep them safer and make them more successful -- can you imagine how much better off we all are? I love the idea that just loving someone can be so powerful. I hope that it puts a little pep in his step, and shows him just how proud I am to be HIS wife.
Take a minute, if you will... and consider doing this for your own husband. Our study leader cautioned us against asking for our husbands to reciprocate -- most probably would, but don't make it about YOUR feelings... make it all about him and focusing on what you can do to improve his self esteem... while thinking about all the little things that you love about him rather than the little picky things that might be negative.