Thursday, August 21, 2008

Opinions & Rude People

For the record, a blog is a place where someone writes in their own words about their own world. It is a place for someone's specific views, life events, and anything else they choose to share... and part of the bargain is that other people in the world (those welcomed and those that are not) have the ability to read the thoughts and feelings of the author.

Today, I've come under attack from a very rude and insensitive commenter, and I've chosen to delete the comments of that person... again - my blog... my choice. Most of you that have been with me for a long time as readers know, that is outside of the normal workings of how I keep my blog - but I don't feel that I have to put up with someone attacking my family.

I am so disheartened that someone out there has chosen to say such negative things about people that they don't even know, and more than that - they've attacked a choice that I've made in my life to in fact, save my life.

Not everyone has to agree or understand weight loss surgery as a whole, but don't for one second kid yourself into thinking that weight loss is "just putting down a fork and getting away from the table" because that is just ignorance about what weight loss surgery is. It is a very hard decision to make, and for people that have other problems contributing to their weight issues... it provides a tool to help you in finding a way to overcome obesity.

It certainly has NOT made losing weight easy by any means - I still have to do all the things that others do in terms of working out, eating right, and eating less... BUT it has helped me to get off of medications that only made my body hold on to the excess weight, has allowed my blood chemistry to regulate, and has helped me to find a balance with my food intake.

Weight loss surgery at it's most basic core gives the patient time to stop eating regular food for a while, and start over learning how to eat. For some it is not a necessary procedure, and I applaud them for being able to lose weight on their own... BUT for others it is the only way that their bodies will be retrained into losing weight. It is not a simple decision, nor is it an easy one... it is not for everybody - but for those of us that make the choice - it is a life saving procedure.

Now, my thoughts about medical insurance are absolutely that... they are MINE. People argue that insurance shouldn't cover weight loss surgery - well I can make the same argument about medical treatments that are covered at my expense that could be just as absurd. Someone doesn't want to have weight loss surgery covered on their plan... fine... but at the same time - we shouldn't cover drug addiction or the recovery from that - for some people weight loss surgery is used to treat their addiction to food. Seems like the same thing to me.

How about someone that has been diagnosed with a disease because of their smoking or drinking addiction - for instance liver problems or lung problems - I pay the premiums to care for their medical treatment, why shouldn't they do the same for others?

It's all a simple issue of perspective on how you think at things, I can respect that people don't agree with me - but I will not allow them to attack my family or me in the comments section of MY blog.

For those of you out there that are my regular, lovely readers - please excuse this post - as it is simply a reply to one harassing reader.


  1. VERY WELL SAID! People who think they know it all have no idea what it is like on this side of a weight problem that you have spent your entire life trying to cure. If they don't agree with it, fine, don't have the surgery. If it makes you feel better, work for a company whose insurance doesn't cover WLS. Whatever floats your boat and makes you feel justified.

    But as you said, Kim, we do pay lots of bucks for insurance to cover addictions to drugs and alcohol as well as to treat people who have spent their lives smoking.

    It must be wonderful for your commentor to live such a clean life, with no problems at all (because surely, she must not have any if she can't even attempt to understand someone else's issues). Wish we could all be so lucky. How is that living in a bubble working for you?

    I'm sorry, I just get really, really angry at judgmental people. Walk in Kim's shoes for awhile, or mine; then report back and let's see how it feels. Unfortunately, you can't do that, so maybe it is better that she get her own blog so she write her opinions all over it.

    You were right to delete the comments. No one needs that kind of narrow minded negativity.

  2. To the harassing reader (and really, to us all):

    "Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

    Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."

    Matthew 7:1-5

    In summary, we don't have to agree with one another about every minute issue, but we do have to look at our own hearts, motivations, and desires and ask ourselves, "Am I the best I can be? Am I what Christ wants me to be?" If not (and no one is), then we need to work towards that end. And we will ALL be working until our days are finished! And in the meantime, none of us is qualified to sit in judgement about another's choices in life.

  3. Props to the deletion. Nobody needs that crap on their blog! People need to remember too that a blog is never the complete story... you can't judge somebody based on the stories they post, because they're never telling the WHOLE story, whether on purpose or not. And what I've found? A lot of the people who blast WLS... don't have insurance coverage for it. I bet if they did, 99% of them would be on the table in no time flat.

  4. Oh my goodness! I leave you for a day and craziness ensues...

    It's unfortunate, but people are often the most judgmental about things they don't have a clue about. I'm like that sometimes too.


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