From the very beginning we knew that our boys were opposites in almost every way... COMPLETE opposites. It has been almost comical.
Where James was loud and fussy as a baby - Tyler was quiet and reserved.
Where Tyler was laid back and relaxed - James was demonstrative and let you know when he didn't like something.
Where James' fussiness was brought on by reflux and milk intolerance - Tyler had issues with a SEVERE gag reflex... and to this day - I swear John and I have been vomited on enough to have 6 children thanks to Tyler.
Where James took a little extra time to master a milestone before truly beginning it (like walking) - Tyler took to it early and stumbled through the early phases of it.
Where Tyler likes to cuddle - James only does it on his terms.
Where James wouldn't allow anyone to rock him to sleep - Tyler did it until he was about 13 months old. Even still, he loves to cuddle - he just won't fall asleep like that anymore.
Where Tyler likes to bring you a book to read - James would rather sit on the floor and flip through it himself.
Where James likes to play outside - Tyler wasn't as big on going outside until recently.
Where Tyler likes to take an actual shower from time to time - James HATES having water pouring over his head.
Where James loved to go swimming from about 6 months old on - Tyler didn't learn to appreciate it until his 1st birthday... with a LOT of training in the backyard before hand.
It's an amazing journey of learning to parent each child differently to their strengths and weaknesses. In the early days and months - I remember thinking: "I did this with James... so it should work." Only to find that it in fact DID NOT! There are so many things about parenthood that people don't tell you - some I think are because if it was widely shared with people... our population might cease growing any larger. Other things, I think just vary so much from family to family and/or child to child - you just can't predict what can/will happen and what won't.
It's all a great big guessing game of trial and error - all with the hope that you will parent well enough that they become good citizens with a caring spirit and a gentle heart. It is an amazing adventure that can not be truly explained or shared until such a time as you can sit back, laugh and say - "yep, it's a crazy wild ride."