Friday, July 30, 2010
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Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Friday, July 23, 2010
Anyway, I noticed recently that I've read a TON (relatively speaking for me) of books since I got my Barnes & Noble nook for Christmas... so I thought I'd share with you some of those books and let you in on these little gems that help me have an hour of down-time during the work day.
Here they are in order that I've read them... and maybe at the end - I'll tell you some that are in the cue for the future.
1) Knit Two (Friday Night Knitting Club, No 2) - by Kate Jacobs... if you haven't read Friday Night Knitting Club, start there... these books are WONDERFUL! It's sort of like a modern version of Steel Magnolias set within New York City... and teh second one has all of the characters traveling to Italy. It's a great story about friendship and love amoungst some unlikely characters.
2) Comfort Food - by Kate Jacobs... this is another really great book that I enjoyed reading. It's about a woman that has her own television program on a cable network similar to Food Network, and the story of her reinventing herself to stay fresh for the viewers. Of course there is a lot more to the story than that, but is is very entertaining.
3) Something Borrowed - by Emily Giffin... I've wanted to read her books for a while now - I kept seeing them in the store with the pretty and very simply elegant covers... but never had gotten around to actually buying one. WOW, I missed out... but in the end - I got to read them one right after the other... so that's cool. This book is her first, and it's being made into a movie right now with Kate Hudson and Ginnifer Goodwin staring as the main two characters... I can't wait to see the movie. Anyway, it's a good story about best friends that are truly opposites - and how their lives get muddled into doing things that they'd never thought were possible. I highly recommend you pick up this one and read it - and I promise you'll fall in love with Emily Giffin and want to read her other books. A summary from a review by Publishers Weekly: Since elementary school, Rachel and Darcy have been best friends, with Darcy always outshining Rachel. While single Rachel is the self-confessed good girl, an attorney trapped at a suffocating New York law firm, Darcy is the complete opposite, a stereotypical outgoing publicist, planning a wedding with the handsome Dex. After Rachel's 30th birthday party, she knocks back one drink too many and winds up in bed with Dex. Instead of feeling guilty about sleeping with her best friend's fiancé, Rachel realizes that Dex is the only man she's really loved, and that she's always resented manipulative Darcy. Rachel and Dex spend a few weekends in the city together "working" while Darcy's off with friends at a Hamptons beach share, but finally Rachel realizes she'll have to give Dex an ultimatum.
4) Something Blue - by Emily Giffin... This one follows the character Darcy from Something Borrowed through the next phase of her life. The amazing thing about this book was that in Something Borrowed, I didn't really like Darcy's character... but as this book progressed and you got to see the character on a deeper level - and ultimately her transformation into a completely different person... you fall in love with her too. A summary from a review by Publishers Weekly: Perhaps beautiful Darcy Rhone isn't really wicked, but she is one of the most shallow, materialistic, self-centered and naïve 29-year-olds around. Ostensibly a high-powered PR person in Manhattan (though she never seems to work), Darcy spends most of her time shopping, partying and getting ready for her wedding to perfect guy Dex. But an alcohol-fueled Hamptons fling with one of Dex's pals, Marcus, starts to break Darcy's perfect life down; and discovering Dex hiding in her best friend Rachel's closet really shatters it. Pregnant with Marcus's baby, Darcy decamps for London, where she crashes in high school pal Ethan's flat and annoys the heck out of him with her endless shopping and complete disregard for her impending motherhood. But after a good lecture from Ethan, whom Darcy has started to fall for a little, Darcy embarks on a self-improvement plan, thereby demonstrating she can think about someone besides herself.
5) The 9th Judgment - by James Patterson... it's no secret that I love the Women's Murder Club series... I've done a post about the books before. I really enjoy them for the way James Patterson writes in short chapters - I love that when I want to read "just one more chapter" that only means a couple more pages! Of course 9 books into the series - I'm vested in the characters and the stories, and since I'm one of those people that can read or watch a cop related book/program/movie and never make any predictions on who did it or why... I'm the perfect reader for him. The stories are great, and I enjoy watching them unfold as I read. Am I the only one that does that? I just want to watch/read and let the author take me on the journey they want me to go on without jumping ahead to figure out "who done it"...
Taken from a review of the book: A young mother and her infant child are ruthlessly gunned down while returning to their car in the garage of a shopping mall. There are no witnesses, and Detective Lindsay Boxer is left with only one shred of evidence: a cryptic message scrawled across the windshield in bloodred lipstick. The same night, the wife of A-list actor Marcus Dowling is woken by a cat burglar who is about to steal millions of dollars' worth of precious jewels. In just seconds there is a nearly empty safe, a lifeless body, and another mystery that throws San Francisco into hysteria.
Lindsay spends every waking hour working with her partner, Rich--and her desire for him threatens to tear apart both her engagement and the Women's Murder Club. Before Lindsay and her friends can piece together either case, one of the killers forces Lindsay to put her own life on the line--but is it enough to save the city? With unparalleled danger and explosive action, The 9th Judgment is James Patterson at his compelling, unstoppable best!
6) Baby Proof - by Emily Giffin... the author leaves the original characters of Something Borrowed and Something Blue behind in her third book (and the subsequent two since then as well) and writes about a new couple. This couple went into their relationship with the understanding that neither of them wanted children - but somewhere along the way one of them changes their mind on the subject... so this book takes you through their journey through that issue. A summary from a review by Publishers Weekly: As a successful editor at a Manhattan publishing house, Claudia Parr counts herself fortunate to meet and marry Ben, a man who claims to be a nonbreeding career-firster like she is. The couple's early married years go smoothly, but then Ben's biological clock starts to tick. A baby's a deal breaker for Claudia, so she moves out and bunks with her college roommate Jess (a 35-year-old blonde goddess stuck in a series of dead-end relationships) while the wheels of divorce crank into action. Even after the divorce is finalized and Claudia embarks on a steamy love affair with her colleague Richard, she begins to doubt her decision when she suspects Ben has found a smart, young and beautiful woman willing to bear his children.
7) Love the One You're With - by Emily Giffin... this novel leaves the topic of babies behind and focuses on relationships. More specifically a marriage and within that marriage a spouse that has some unresolved issues concerning a former relationship. You will follow the journey as Ellen figures out if she can let go of the past, and forge ahead with a future that fulfills her. A summary from a review by Publishers Weekly: Shortly after marrying Andy, Ellen runs into Leo, her intense first love. Leo, a moody writer, has secretly preoccupied Ellen ever since he broke her heart, so after seeing him again, Ellen wonders if her perfect life is truly what she wants or simply what she was expected to want. This scenario is complicated by Ellen's past: the early death of her mother and subsequent disintegration of her family have left Ellen insecure and saddled with unresolved feelings of guilt. These feelings intensify when Andy's career takes the newlyweds from Ellen's beloved New York City to suburban Atlanta. As Ellen's feelings of inadequacy and resentment grow, her marriage begins to crumble.
1) What to Expect When You're Expecting - well, I know what I said... that I wasn't going to talk about my pregnancy in this post... but I wouldn't be giving you a complete list of my current reading if I didn't give you this on the list too. I've been following along as my pregnancy progresses, and the book has been helpful on some topics so far...
2) The Heart of the Matter - by Emily Giffin... I'm only a couple of chapters into this one, but I've loved her other books so much that I have no doubt of how much I'll love it when I finish it. Here is a summary taken from a review by Publishers Weekly written about the book: Nick Russo is a pediatric plastic surgeon; his wife, Tessa (sister of Dex, from Something Borrowed), is a professor turned stay-at-home mom living a cushy life in Boston. Nick is called in to care for a six-year-old burn victim, and Nick's devotion to his work is soon tangled up in his attraction to the boy's mother, Valerie, a single attorney. Narrated in turn by Tessa and Valerie, the action centers around—will they or won't they, and, if they do, will Tessa forgive him? While unclear what Nick finds so unsatisfying in his marriage, adultery is always tempting and Tessa and Valerie both have their charms.
To be Read:
1) The Recipe Club: A Tale of Food and Friendship - by Andrea Israel2) Julie and Julia: 365 Days, 524 Recipes, 1 Tiny Apartment Kitchen - by Julie Powell
3) Cleaving: A Story of Marriage, Meat, and Obsession - by Julie Powell
4) Not My Daughter - by Barbara Delinsky
5) The Surgeon - by Tess Gerritsen
6) The Apprentice - by Tess Gerritsen
7) The Sinner - by Tess Gerritsen
8) Body Double - by Tess Gerritsen
9) Vanish - by Tess Gerritsen
10) The Mephisto Club - by Tess Gerritsen
11) The Keepsake - by Tess Gerritsen
12) Ice Cold - by Tess Gerritsen
Hope that one or two of these might interest you... let me know if you choose to read any of them - I'd love to hear what you think about them too!
Thursday, July 22, 2010
This was Mr. Chill on Monday while hanging out with his Daddy - he had a great day, rested and relaxed... and was 100% fine.
Then came Tuesday... and wow... he spent the majority of the day with the sitter crying and fussy - we determined that we're fairly sure that he's teething. He's got the symptoms - drooling, fussy, chewing on anything he can, and on Tuesday he wasn't eating very much at all.
Yesterday was better, but he got fussy toward the end of the day - and had a bit of a fever... so this morning Daddy is taking him to see the doctor. We're hoping that it's nothing, but Miss Amanda thought it might be his ears - so we're getting that checked out. It's also a good time to ask her about adding some prune juice to his bottles and how to help him with constipation as we get ready to add some cereal into his diet in the next few weeks.
He is absolutely in LOVE with Baby Einstein's - Baby Beethoven video... he will sit in his bouncy seat like he is in the photo and just talk to the screen... it's the cutest thing ever. It actually is one of the few ways we've been able to calm him down when he's gotten super fussy. We also have the Baby Mozart video as well, but he doesn't seem to like it quite as much...
Yesterday, we accidentally left his new teething tablets (we've yet to give him one) at Miss Amanda's house - and he was SUPER upset by the time we got home... crying hysterically and so I ran out to the drug store to pick up another bottle of them, and literally by the time I was paying for them... I got a text from John saying that he was in his bouncy seat watching his movie - happy as can be. Stinker!
It was funny because when I got home - John was telling him how he didn't expect that he'd take over our television quite so soon. HAHAHA! Whatever it takes to keep them happy, right?
Hopefully the doctor will have good news when they see her at 8:45, and from there he's spending the rest of the day with Aunt Susan... hopefully that'll go well for Susan - since he's been having a rough couple of days... if she'll keep him close to his bouncy seat and his swing - she should be fine. I'm hoping to be able to get out of work a tiny bit early to get home to my little guy and take care of him too. It's days like this (and really the last couple of them) that make it even harder to get up and go to work... because I want nothing more than to stay by his side and take extra care of him.
Saturday, July 17, 2010
I'm so grateful that now the cable networks are pumping out good programing for the summer months while the regular stations take a break from most things - all except the "reality" shows that I know a lot of you love... I'm not so much into them except for maybe The Next Food Network Star... or something like that.
My absolute favorite cable network is TNT... yes, part of that is because I'm a Law & Order addict with a slight side addiction of Bones... and they used to show reruns of ER everyday that we watched religiously until we'd seen every episode at least 4 times - they recently stopped showing it anymore - which was sad for us because it almost didn't seem like our day was complete without one episode of ER being run through our DVR.
Anyway - TNT has some new shows this season, and one of our all-time favorites... so I thought I'd share these gems with you because their seasons are just starting and there is plenty of time for you to get plugged in for some summer enjoyment - and of course you can always email me to talk about what you think of the shows too - just be sure to give me at least one extra day for viewing because we tend to have to watch via DVR right now. (You can email me immediately - just put the show name in the subject and I'll be sure not to read until I've seen the most recent episode)
The Closer - this one we've been watching since it started several years ago - and we just LOVE it. The characters are great, and the stories are even better... it's just a quality cop program with a lot of heart. It is on Monday nights...
TNT says this about the show: As the new season of THE CLOSER opens, the squad is moving into its new high-tech digs. But it’s not long before they’re wishing they could be back in their old space, where a plain white board nailed to the wall was more practical than the troublesome sliding screens in their new murder room. But true to form, Brenda is determined to bend the space to her style.
With the LAPD on the hunt for a new chief of police, Assistant Police Chief Will Pope (Simmons) is among those in the running. Should he get the job, it could mean a promotion for Brenda. The political juggling around the office soon leads Brenda to do some career-minded soul-searching. It also has her colleague, Robbery-Homicide Commander Taylor (Gossett), smelling a possible promotion for himself, even though he can’t even seem to wrangle an office of his own in the new facility.
On the home front, Brenda’s husband, FBI Agent Fritz Howard (Tenney), has some career changes of his own in store. After turning down a promotion that would have sent him to Washington, D.C., he’s now in line for a job that could not only keep him in LA, but give him and Brenda the chance to spend a lot more time together.
This season, Brenda and her squad will tackle cases involving a sniper shooting in a posh neighborhood, a possible serial rapist who uses a stun gun to immobilize his victims and a drug-related custody battle that ends in two deaths. Meanwhile, Detective Sanchez (Cruz) will struggle to care for a young boy involved in a case the squad investigated last year. And Lt. Provenza (Bailey), Brenda’s second-in-command, will once again find himself in a professionally embarrassing situation when a one-night stand with a flight attendant leads to the discovery of a dead body in her bathtub.
Also this season, Mary McDonnell (Battlestar Galactica) will reprise her role as Capt. Raydor, the by-the-book head of the Force Investigation Division, who has butted heads with Brenda on several occasions. This time, her presence could have major implications for Brenda’s future in the department.
Rizzoli & Isles is the newest show on TNT - another cop show, but with a twist. It's got the underlying story of two unlikely friends... they've only shown the premier, and I loved it. It is shown right after The Closer on Monday nights... (this one for sure won't be seen until at least Tuesday in our house because Mama can't stay up that late)
TNT says this about the show: RIZZOLI & ISLES follows Boston detective Jane Rizzoli (Harmon) and medical examiner Maura Isles (Sasha Alexander), complete opposites and good friends who solve crimes and bust some of Boston’s most notorious criminals. Growing up at opposite ends of the economic spectrum, the two remain strikingly different from one another in many ways. Jane, the only female detective in Boston’s homicide division, is a tough and gutsy cop who doesn’t let her guard down (except with Maura), dodges her overprotective mother and is better at basketball than her brother. Maura, meanwhile, is usually more comfortable among the dead than the living. She is always impeccably dressed in designer duds with a steady, sometimes icy temperament. And she is working on curbing her tendency to diagnose the people she meets – including her first dates. Jane and Maura often find themselves working together as both use their brilliant minds and expertise to figure out the “who done it” as well as the “how done it” of Boston’s most complex cases.
Despite their many differences, Jane and Maura are best friends, with a quirky and supportive relationship. As Tamaro explains, “That Jane and Maura are so different and yet so effective as a team makes them unusual.… There’s something rare about their relationship that I see in the world but not enough on television: two smart, strong, competent women who instinctively drop the protective shield when they’re with each other.”
RIZZOLI & ISLES also stars Lorraine Bracco (The Sopranos) as Angela, Jane’s demanding and intrusive mother; Lee Thompson Young (FlashForward) as Det. Barry Frost, Jane’s somewhat green partner; Bruce McGill (Law Abiding Citizen) as Det. Vince Korsak, Jane’s seasoned former partner; and Jordan Bridges (Dawson’s Creek) as Jane’s brother, Frankie, a patrol cop who hopes one day to become a detective.
Our third favorite on the channel is HawthoRNe - staring Jada Pickett Smith... it is a fantastic story about a hospital - full of great characters with all their internal struggles... we really enjoy this one too. It's in it's second season and looks to be around for a long time... it comes on Tuesday nights. There is another police show set in Memphis (Memphis Beat) on after it that stars the guy from My Name is Earl too that looks pretty good, but I haven't paid much attention to it yet.
TNT says this about the show: The doors of Richmond Trinity have closed…permanently. That’s the dramatic reality that opens the second season of TNT’s powerful medical drama, HAWTHORNE. This June, the hit series returns with star and executive producer Jada Pinkett Smith (The Women, The Matrix trilogy) as Christina Hawthorne, a Chief Nursing Officer ready for battle on the front lines of a war against declining patient services and hospital budget cuts.
HAWTHORNE is told from the point of view of nurses as they struggle against the odds to deliver the best care possible. The series also stars Michael Vartan (Alias) as Dr. Tom Wakefield, Richmond Trinity’s Chief of Surgery who helped Christina’s husband during the last stages of his cancer; Suleka Mathew (Men in Trees) as Bobbie Jackson, a fellow nurse and one of Christina’s best friends; David Julian Hirsh (Lovebites) as Ray Stein, a nurse struggling with being accepted in a female-dominated profession; Christina Moore (90210) as Candy Sullivan, a nurse with a patriotic sense of duty; Vanessa Lengies (American Dreams) as Kelly Epson, who continues to find her footing as a nurse; and Hannah Hodson (TNT’s The Ron Clark Story) as Christina’s daughter Camille.
As the second season of HAWTHORNE opens, several Richmond Trinity doctors and nurses have been transferred to James River, a failing hospital in terrible shape. There, Christina butts heads with the ER’s head nurse, Gail Strummer (Vanessa Bell Calloway – The District), who is extremely set in her ways. Christina is impressed, however, by the charming Dr. Steve Shaw (Adam Rayner – Mistresses), who hails from England, and the hard-working ER clerk Marcus Leeds (Collins Curtis Pennie – Half Nelson), who has his eye on Camille.
This season, Christina and Tom will try to forge a romantic relationship, especially now that he is no longer serving as Chief of Surgery and can devote more time to patient care and a private life. Bobbie will once again find herself helping out homeless mother Isabelle. Ray’s lust-hate relationship with Dr. Marshall will hit some snags over Ray’s continued feelings toward Candy, who is serving a tour of duty in Afghanistan. Kelly’s confidence as a nurse will slowly build, thanks in part to her work with a nurse (guest star Sarah Gilbert – Roseanne) who’s even more insecure. And Camille takes a step toward adulthood that her mother isn’t sure she’s prepared to take.
Created by Emmy winner John Masius (St. Elsewhere, Providence, Dead Like Me), HAWTHORNE comes to TNT from Sony Pictures Television in association with Pinkett Smith’s 100% Womon Productions, John Masius Productions and Jamie Tarses’ FanFare Productions. HAWTHORNE is executive-produced by Pinkett Smith; Masius; Glen Mazzara (The Shield, Crash, Life); and Jamie Tarses (My Boys).
I HIGHLY recommend that you check these shows out because if you're anything like me - and enjoy good characterization in your television viewing... I have to care about what happens to the characters or the show is dead for me... you won't be disappointed by the folks at TNT!
Friday, July 16, 2010
Isn't it amazing the amount of advice that you get when you are pregnant or raising an infant? I am literally speechless sometimes over the volume of emails, phone calls, and verbal advice that I am given on on a weekly basis - ranging in topics from delivery to the right way to hold my son. Does this happen to everyone?
I wasn't exactly prepared for it - and often times, I don't agree with what is being said... but I try to gracefully just take it all in with a grain of salt. When I have a question - I certainly put it out there for any and everyone to give me feedback... but the thing that blows my mind is just the amount of random stuff being told to me all the time about topics that really don't even apply.
Please don't take this as me asking for you to not leave comments - because that is NOT the case... I love hearing from each and every one of you... I'm just wondering how this phenomina starts. I guess it's everyone wanting to share their experience to help new mothers out - and that's truly a beautiful thing... it's very sweet and kind.
I guess the thing that I wonder about is if folks realize that every mother and every child is different... because what works for one might not work for the other. What works for James may not necessarily work for Tyler when he comes along... and you just have to be flexible and learn what your baby wants and needs.
I certainly am new to this game of motherhood - but my son is happy, growing, healthy, and thriving... so I consider that we're doing a pretty good job of it even with the ups and downs as they come. So, I think that for now, at this stage of his development - we have a pretty good handle on what soothes him, when he's hungry and things like that - so it baffles me when people tell me I'm wrong. Or that I'm not doing something correctly. For sure there are things that come up that we haven't experienced before - as will happen for the next 25+ years... but you just have to figure it out as it comes.
In terms of birth and delivery - I think some of the things I've written about that have become misunderstood in terms of what I'm trying to say - because some of the emails I've gotten have been to a certain extent - outside of the point that I was making. Here's the thing... I know my body fairly well - I'm not as in tune with it as some... BUT I know for the most part what I need at various times.
I know that my blood pressure, blood sugar, and vitamin levels are of the utmost importance... and believe me they are being strictly monitored - I promise. My doctors are wonderful at that part of the process and there are two of them working as a team in this with me... and I feel pretty confident that with that we're doing alright. Surprisingly enough, my body seems to be doing fairly well inspite of the issues that it could be having - so we're thrilled that as of right now my blood pressure levels are completely normal... no one expected that blessing! Even in spite of my swelling - the levels are staying at normal levels or just below.
In terms of delivery - natural vs c-section... I know that this is a pretty controvercial topic for some... and I certainly think every woman is entitled to having the delivery that they want... but I just want to clear the air on how I feel about it - and my plans. For starters - I think that every woman's view on this is shaped by her medical history and experiences in life... so no one is wrong - we're all just different. For me personally - I am not afraid, upset or anything else about having a c-section. I feel like for me, that will likely be how Tyler comes to join the family.
My own birth story was one where my mother and I both almost died because they weren't quick enough to realize that I should have been born that way - and by the time they did realize I was stuck in the birth canal - it was too late to change the course of the delivery. I realize that was 1978 and things have changed since then, BUT again... I'm totally fine with having a c-section if that is what my doctor feels is best.
Given the potential size of Tyler - being that I'm diabetic... and the issues that can come up with preeclampsia due to my blood pressure - I feel pretty confident that we'd make a good choice there to go ahead with a c-section. Now, if something changes and it looks like a vaginal delivery would be perfectly fine for both of us - then that's okay too. I'm just not going to be one of those women that fights to the end to have the vaginal delivery... that isn't me, and I know that. If the doctor says "I think we should do the c-section, because..." my response would be "great, let's do it!"
I know my body - and I know that typically... when it comes to medical things... I fall into the worst case scenario end of the spectrum, and I'm okay with that - I've learned to live with it. All I ask is that my choices be given the same respect that I'd give you in yours. I think it's wonderful that some of you deliver your children without medication... at home or otherwise... I really do - I think it's great that you can make those decisions and have that freedom, and I hope that each experience has been fantastic. I am not that person... I'm as far from being what has been called "granola" as one can get... and I'm okay with that.
I don't really do nature - on most levels... I'm not a camper... I'd rather be in a hotel. I'm not an all-natural no drugs sort of girl... and I'm okay with that too. It takes all of us to make this world go around - and we have to love and respect each other for those differences.
I think the single best advice I've gotten from some dear friends has been "Find what works for you and your baby - and stick with it" - best words ever... because they are so TRUE!! Even still - sometimes all a new mom needs is a smile, a hug, and someone to just tell them that they understand and have been there.
I hope that I haven't run you guys off - because honestly - I love hearing from you, and have picked up parenting/pregnancy tricks from you that I didn't know existed... I just wondered if others out there experienced a crazy onslaught of advice during this period of their parenting journey... and does it continue as the kids get older, or is this just something that happens with the baby stage...
(Also realize that I'm insanely hormonal... so like I've done with some of the advice... take my words with a grain of salt... and if needed with a lime and a margarita!)
Thursday, July 15, 2010
I've gotten several requests lately both via the blog and Facebook to put out some belly pictures of how I look with Tyler blossoming and growing like MAD in my belleh... so I'm thinking about it. I don't know how I feel about it in terms of showing unflattering photos of my body in light of my past... with weight loss surgery - you tend to show photos of things shrinking... not expanding at alarming rates. HA!
Two things that are expanding like a Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade balloon would be my feet... seriously ya'll it's bad. Want proof - okay here...
Aren't they ridiculous? I mean - I used to have definition between my calves and ankles... but not anymore... and there is a clear ridge of puff right at the base of my toes... this photo doesn't capture that - but it's like a pillow on top of my foot. You might be wondering about the line that appears at the base of my ankle area... well...
That's a permanent scar now - because I tend to wear the same shoes to work everyday... they slip of and on easily so that I can relax and put my feet up... but when they're swollen like this - they apparently have a ridge. I guess I'll be able to tell Tyler one day that he helped create those cute little lines on Mommy's feet.
I'll let ya'll know what I decide on the belly photos - or maybe one will just appear...
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
I took a little pole on Facebook last night - just to see if I was being hyper-sensitive about an issue that I've been having with my obstetrician. Don't get me wrong... I like her... and I think she's a great doctor. Certainly if someone was going to do surgery on me - she's one that I'd choose... and she has, so I'm pretty confident in that. I just wonder if she'd be someone that I could deal with "coaching me" through a vagnial delivery... Sometimes, her bedside manner leaves a little bit to be desired.
In all fairness - I have to say that my primary care doctor is the opposite extreme - he has the best bedside manner of any doctor I've ever known... so I might just be a little spoiled by the fact that he's the doctor I see 99% of the time.
Back to Dr. S... she's really nice, but I sometimes think that she's got ADD... or at the very least she's not listening to me. I know that some people - probably most - blow smoke when they talk to their doctor's about things going on with their bodies. Especially weight gain or things of a similar nature... sure it's easy to try to build yourself up and look for an easier solution to the problem than the hard work it takes to lose weight or whatever. I get it - I really do... TRUST me... as a weight loss surgery patient - I spent a LOT of years in that boat.
One thing I've learned over the last - almost 3 years - since my surgery... is that I'm not afraid of those conversations anymore - do I still hate them, absolutely! They just don't scare me anymore though - I don't dread going to the doctor (or I didn't before getting pregnant) and getting weighed. Probably because with Dr. W (my primary doc) I can talk with him on a real level about what's going on and he'll give valid suggestions - knowing that it's a very difficult struggle.
Dr. S on the other hand is not that way - I've tried to talk to her about how I am NOT eating with the mindset of "I'm eating for two" or an army... I'm not even really able to eat too terribly much at one time - I just eat about every 2-3 hours. Sometimes is it a cookie that is not necessary - sure... but that shouldn't account for the amount of weight gain I'm experiencing. Yesterday, John even tried to explain it to her - and she didn't harp on it quite as much... but she still mentioned it and told me to watch it.
Watch it do what? Continue on with whatever it's going to do?
Should I workout - probably, but ya'll I just can't. By the time I've worked a full day, gotten James home, spent a little time with my family, cooked/eaten dinner, gotten James ready for bed, worked in a little tiny bit of sleep for myself, gotten up for a night-time feeding with my growing boy... there's nothing left - in terms of time or energy. And when I say nothing... I mean you could sit me in a padded cell and watch me drool - because there is literally nothing left in my body that can even move.
So, anyway - I digressed a bit... because I was getting around to talking about another issue that keeps repeating itself with Dr. S.
Since my first appointment - she's been pretty set on the fact that I'm going to be a c-section delivery. Pretty much every conversation is centered around that, but oddly when you push her on it - in terms of asking what the point in taking a childbirth class would be if you're having a c-section... she will then backtrack and tell me not to give up on a vaginal delivery. UGH! Make up your mind - because if it's going to be a c-section... that's fine with me - I just don't want to waste any time away from James on an evening or weekend taking a class that won't matter to me in the end.
**Edited to add - I am an insulin dependent diabetic while pregnant - it's not technically called gestational diabetes since I had a history of it before my weight loss surgery... but that is a factor in the prediction that Tyler will be a big boy upon delivery time.
On top of that - every time we go in for our monthly visits... she asks me about tying my tubes. It's sort of subtle, because she'll frame it in terms of me letting her know if that's what I want... but every time it shocks me. I've tried to ask if it's medically necessary - and tried to figure out if she's recommending it... but I can't decide what the deal is. I mean there I am - pregnant for the first time and every single time I see the doctor - she brings this up. Sup with that?!
We'd like to have a third child someday - hopefully a girl... of course not anytime in the next year... (Geez, can you imagine?!) But, we don't consider ourselves done with James & Tyler... one more would make us happy. That being said - mean who is to say that I could be blessed with another miracle pregnancy? No one, only time will tell if that's in God's plan for us... so certainly we'd be open to adopting another child if that was the route that we felt we were being led... but am I of the mindset of cutting off the opportunity for God to do his magic again? Not on your life. The only reason that would be okay with me at this point in my life would be if it were a life and death situation.
I was glad to see that of my friends that responded last night - almost everyone thought it was odd. That makes me feel so much better about being sensitive when asked... and not understanding why it would even come up. I guess maybe in her own way - she's just trying to be efficient and means nothing by it, but she's dealing with pregnant women... and she KNOWS my history. She submitted my story to TLC to be on a television show for crying out loud...
What do you guys think? What would you say in my shoes?
Tuesday, July 13, 2010
It's amazing to me how quickly time flies - I mean in just another 3 weeks or so - it'll be time for him to start having some rice cereal... we tink that he's going through a little growth spurt right now because he's sleeping a bit more during the day, and is waking up for that middle of the night feeding again. An unofficial weigh in on Sunday night puts him at about 13.4 pounds now... which is about a pound gain since his 2 month doctors visit. Just another month and he'll be headed back to get his second round of shots - and we'll see how much he's grown. I think he's getting taller much quicker than he's gaining weight - but I won't know for sure until they measure him.
Monday, July 12, 2010
Sunday, July 11, 2010
Yesterday - we had a little bit of a tough time with our photo shoot - but in retrospect we didn't schedule it at a good time for James, it was hot, and I think they just pushed him a little too long. Once we left the store though - he was GREAT. Smiley, happy, and giggling for the next several hours while we went to Babies R Us and lunch.
Today, he spoiled me by being a Mama's boy - which is a rare occasion because he is normally the biggest Daddy's boy you've ever seen. We did great at home getting ready for church - little meltdown on the way to church, but I was able to quickly calm him down when we got there. I took him out of his carseat in the parking lot and he relaxed while we walked in. We snuggled through the service, and made it to the grocery store after church... that's when we lost it.
We did our shopping while smiling and being so happy - but about the time that Mom got to the card section to get Daddy's birthday card - we lost it in the biggest way imaginable. He wasn't just crying - he was almost choking himself because of the severity of the fit. So I tried to soothe him for a little bit - while the entire store walked by and looked at us... one lady offered to help me with "her" (nice - since he was in a green and brown outfit)... but in the end, nothing was going to calm him down.
What do you do in that situation? Well, I left my entire cart ready for checkout in the card section... grabbed James, his carseat and my purse and walked out of the store. I did manage to tell a store employee that I left the cart there in the aisle so that they could put the ice cream away. We went to the car, got buckled in... pulled out of the parking lot - and promptly fell asleep. Oiy!
At that point, Mommy lost it completely... and had a moment. It's a good thing we only live like 10 minutes from the store... because by the time we got home... we were alright and he was still sleeping. I was able to come in and get a thing or two done before he woke up for his bottle and big nap of the day. We'll see how the rest of Daddy's birthday goes...
Before I leave you for the day though - I thought I'd give you a glimpse at what he was like yesterday... so cute and cuddly. Enjoy!
Monday, July 5, 2010
If the prize isn't claimed by tomorrow night at 8:30 CST - I will choose another winner.